I’ll make two guesses for why trying to convince yourself that you can work hard, didn’t work out. And then I'll try to come up with respective, possibly helpful, solutions.
One; it could be that you’re scared that you won’t reach your goals, no matter how hard you try. You don’t think you have it in you. And since you’ve decided all work will be useless, you’re probably thinking, ‘’why bother?’’
If that’s the case, you really shouldn’t go around underestimating yourself like that. Literally everyone, with a little work, can do better, and be better. But they have to believe they can first.
Okay, I’m sure you’ve heard that one before; that you should believe in yourself. Let me tell you why the belief part is important; using an illustration.
Imagine a computer is programmed not to save any word documents. Even if that dialogue box appears, the one that asks you if you want to ‘’Save the changes to the document”, and you click yes, it still won’t save anything.
Your mind is like that computer. The dialogue box opening is when you study and try your best to ‘save’ that information in your head. Because you’ve programmed your brain not to think you can do it, that info won’t get saved anyway.
Unlike a computer though, your brain needs to be programmed over a period of time. You actually do it whether you realise it or not; unconsciously or subconsciously. And it’s the same process for reprogramming it. So you might as well start changing the settings now. You want your computer to start saving those changes, don’t you?
Number two; you just don’t want to do it. Like, yeah sure, you want the good grades and all, but you’re not really down for all the heavy lifting, because hard work just isn’t your thing. Especially work that involves books. And besides, even if you wanted to do all of this; you know yourself. You probably won’t be able to get yourself to do it.
If this is you, worry not. Your affliction is quite common. It affects two out of three people, and although most people know they have it, not many seek treatment.
You, my friend, have what is called ‘laziness’. With a syndrome known as ‘Lack of self control’.
Great! we have the diagnosis! Let’s carry on and see what we can do to treat you. Shall we?